[Good conversations have lots of doorknobs](https://experimentalhistory.substack.com/p/good-conversations-have-lots-of-doorknobs): > Givers think that conversations unfold as a series of invitations; takers think conversations unfold as a series of declarations. When giver meets giver or taker meets taker, all is well. When giver meets taker, however, giver gives, taker takes, and giver gets resentful (“Why won’t he ask me a single question?”) while taker has a lovely time (“She must really think I’m interesting!”) or gets annoyed (“My job is so boring, why does she keep asking me about it?”). ## See also - [[Mental models]] - [[Difficult conversations are about misaligned frameworks]] - [[Pitfalls of over-communication]] - [[Diffuse negativity with curiosity]] - [[Unfolding can lead to better outcomes than visions]] - [[Cultivate curiosity to solve problems and make connections]] - [[Small talk]]